This is a post from our contributor – “The Curvy Girl”
The People We Love
I had the wonderful opportunity of brunching and talking with a female friend this Sunday morning. It was an amazing conversation on our thoughts of “beige” Catholicism and under aspiring catechism schooling in our youth. I rarely write whats actually swirling around under these still waters or about my personal life, thoughts, and experiences. But there was a common thread of dialogue that was mentioned in our conversation I most admittedly have to get out. I also wonder if any one has had the same experience as I have? Of course after our long talk we stumbled upon the topic of love. Specifically the idea of Catholic love as we are called to experience in the progression of our life via family, friends, community, and significant others. Words like St Thomas Aquinas were spilled. And siting of the principles and ethics of virtuous love. ETC. There was one thing we came in agreement of. It was the idea of love and the action of receiving / acceptance, versus the all encompassing unhealthy consumption that is heavily prevalent in our social surroundings. I don’t want to tiff my hat here or appear elitist in all this discussion. But she really did hit a thought catalogue of ideas grabbed from retreats, novels, philosophy classes, sermons, books, heart to hearts, that i’ve had over the years.
She sited a Mumford and son’s lyric for her view point on this. It really gave me chills as she said it. And I must get it out and share it to everyone.
Sigh No More –
Love it will not betray you, dismay or enslave you /
It will set you free /
Be more like the man /
You were made to be
A simple lyric by a current pop Christian band, but still hard hitting.
Over the course of years now i’ve experienced a trepidation of interests that seems to highlight on just that key point. Enslave. Consumption. Entrapment.
I’ve had people expect my identity to mold into theirs, or theirs to mold into mine. For some reason the respect of separateness and unique soul whilst focusing on the Godly creative experience that is a relationship is overlooked. When two people join together and start to share time together as well as a life, something beautiful and new is created. It is truly unique. Two identities with separate view points loves and aspirations are experienced and shared thus bounding forward into a process of unique invention. That experience is life givingly amazing!
I have 30 years of unique experiences now – of travels, love, hardship, quarrels, novels, friends, food, tastes, etc etc. Why would I ever want to discount that? Why must I mold into you, or you into me? and lastly? Why don’t people ask more questions? Why don’t people want to learn about and from each other?
I remember having a long ethics class over the concept of external love, specifically in regard to our family members. How we must always regard them, respect them, and passionately love them in our heart of hearts, but doing so keeping in mind this one absolute fact. The person we love does not belong to us. Only to God. Only God, The Holy Spirit, and Jesus can possess us and set us free.